During the initial stages of recovery from sex addiction, there
are two particular types of acting out behavior that you should be
especially aware of. While it is important to address all of the
behaviors of sex addiction, those considered abusive to others and those
considered high-risk to oneself should be given priority while
determining abstinence plans.
Behaviors That Are Abusive To Others
Acting out behaviors that are abusive to others refer to sexual behavior that violates the rights of other people. If your sex addiction behavior goes against another person's right to choose whom they engage in sexual activity with, and under what circumstances, than that behavior is considered to be abusive to others. If you do not have a person's permission to engage in sexual with them, then the activity violates their personal boundaries and rights. Some obvious examples of this type of abusive behavior include: voyeurism and stalking, exhibitionism, rape, incest and sexual assault.
There are other ways in which acting out in sex addiction can be considered abusive to others. They include the following:
Use of threats, power or authority
If your sex addiction brings about behavior in which you are using threats or authority to coerce a person into participating in sexual activity than it is considered abusive. While it is easy to lie to oneself and say that a person has a choice, the reality is that it is not a free choice. Engaging in sexual activities with these people takes advantage of them, and thus violates their rights. Some examples of this include: sex with a subordinate, or someone you have power over, sex with a minor, and sex with someone who is under the influence of drugs or alcohol
Sex with an STD
If you have a sexually transmitted disease and have sex with a person without informing them, their rights are being violated. This type of sex also exposes that person and their partners to disease and even death. This is considered abusive behavior.
Sexual affairs
When a person has sex outside of their committed relationship the rights of the committed partner are violated. Affairs are very often destructive to the committed relationship and cause pain to all who may be involved.
High-Risk Behaviors
High-risk behaviors in sex addiction are those that put you in danger. Many of the abusive behaviors listed above can also fall into this category as they involve the risk of disease, blackmail, injury, arrest and even death. Some additional examples of high-risk behaviors include: buying and selling sex, anonymous sex, masturbating while driving, and sex in public places. Other high-risk behaviors might involve behaviors that drain your bank account, cost you your job, or otherwise have a profound, unalterable life effect.
In the beginning of your recovery from sex addiction you will likely make a list of your acting out behaviors. It is recommended that you seek help from others in recovery to help you sort through these behaviors and determine which ones are abusive to others or high-risk. Your struggle with sex addiction has likely clouded your ability to clearly see your behavior and its risks or consequences. Those who understand your addiction but are objective to the details of your particular life will be able to help you see more clearly.
Behaviors That Are Abusive To Others
Acting out behaviors that are abusive to others refer to sexual behavior that violates the rights of other people. If your sex addiction behavior goes against another person's right to choose whom they engage in sexual activity with, and under what circumstances, than that behavior is considered to be abusive to others. If you do not have a person's permission to engage in sexual with them, then the activity violates their personal boundaries and rights. Some obvious examples of this type of abusive behavior include: voyeurism and stalking, exhibitionism, rape, incest and sexual assault.
There are other ways in which acting out in sex addiction can be considered abusive to others. They include the following:
Use of threats, power or authority
If your sex addiction brings about behavior in which you are using threats or authority to coerce a person into participating in sexual activity than it is considered abusive. While it is easy to lie to oneself and say that a person has a choice, the reality is that it is not a free choice. Engaging in sexual activities with these people takes advantage of them, and thus violates their rights. Some examples of this include: sex with a subordinate, or someone you have power over, sex with a minor, and sex with someone who is under the influence of drugs or alcohol
Sex with an STD
If you have a sexually transmitted disease and have sex with a person without informing them, their rights are being violated. This type of sex also exposes that person and their partners to disease and even death. This is considered abusive behavior.
Sexual affairs
When a person has sex outside of their committed relationship the rights of the committed partner are violated. Affairs are very often destructive to the committed relationship and cause pain to all who may be involved.
High-Risk Behaviors
High-risk behaviors in sex addiction are those that put you in danger. Many of the abusive behaviors listed above can also fall into this category as they involve the risk of disease, blackmail, injury, arrest and even death. Some additional examples of high-risk behaviors include: buying and selling sex, anonymous sex, masturbating while driving, and sex in public places. Other high-risk behaviors might involve behaviors that drain your bank account, cost you your job, or otherwise have a profound, unalterable life effect.
In the beginning of your recovery from sex addiction you will likely make a list of your acting out behaviors. It is recommended that you seek help from others in recovery to help you sort through these behaviors and determine which ones are abusive to others or high-risk. Your struggle with sex addiction has likely clouded your ability to clearly see your behavior and its risks or consequences. Those who understand your addiction but are objective to the details of your particular life will be able to help you see more clearly.
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