You can become stuck on a woman very easily and it is not a good
thing. You really don't want to allow yourself to narrow down your
vision so much so that you see one woman and one woman only as being
your only option for finding relationship happiness in the world. Things
happen and you have to be prepared for that and be able to handle that.
I don't mean to come across too gloomy, just trying to be a little bit
realistic. I've had plenty of conversations with guys who are so stuck
on their ex girlfriend that they literally don't talk or think about
anything else. Another way to say it is that they have become obsessed
and that is in no way a good thing. Even if you had not broken up with
her and she was still with you in a relationship, it still would not be
healthy for you or for her to be so obsessed that she was all that you
could think about or talk about.
So, how do you become unstuck?
First, you have to want to become unstuck because so much of it is a mental thing and you are the only one who has control of that. You have to be able to see that it is going to be better for you to become unstuck or else you are probably going to remain that way. Try to get yourself to imagine what it would be like to see that there are LOTS of options out there. If you have to, take to the web and just look for pictures of beautiful women, the kind you would like to date just so that you can get some realistic perspective on the fact that they ARE out there. Another way to do this, one that I find to be quite fun and effective, is to go out to a club. Not to try to hook up, although you can do that if you like. Just to notice the fact that there are probably at least a handful of women that you would like to date if you had the chance to.
So, how do you become unstuck?
First, you have to want to become unstuck because so much of it is a mental thing and you are the only one who has control of that. You have to be able to see that it is going to be better for you to become unstuck or else you are probably going to remain that way. Try to get yourself to imagine what it would be like to see that there are LOTS of options out there. If you have to, take to the web and just look for pictures of beautiful women, the kind you would like to date just so that you can get some realistic perspective on the fact that they ARE out there. Another way to do this, one that I find to be quite fun and effective, is to go out to a club. Not to try to hook up, although you can do that if you like. Just to notice the fact that there are probably at least a handful of women that you would like to date if you had the chance to.
