Three Ways to Overcome Anxiety

Panic attacks are no picnic. You can be walking along and pushing your shopping trolley at the supermarket and then boom! Your heart starts racing, and your chest tightens up, and you feel like you can't breathe, and your palms get sweaty, and you feel like you need to run and disappear somewhere. Learn right now how you can make them evaporate for good.

Anxiety is also a very distressing state of mind; if you are experiencing frequent panic attacks, this can be an indicator of burnout related to chronic stress. Seek help from your medical practitioner, who can refer you to counselling and support you in removing anxiety from your life.

1. Give yourself extra time to do things to prevent panic attacks.

When you are rushing around, you can be more prone to panic attacks. Start your day at least 15 minutes earlier, and spend some time quietly by yourself in the morning. This will give you more time to be quiet and relaxed, so you will be able to be more at peace with yourself and not feel as though you have to be pressured so much. Practice mindfulness, and make sure that you get yourself somewhere safe, and remember to breathe. If you need to exit from public, try to call a friend to come and assist you if you need it.

2. When you are in the middle of a panic attack:

Get control of your breathing. Breathe deeply by forcing the air swiftly and deeply; you will then breathe the air back in, and do this several times over. Stop quietly, and then give use one hand to massage the other, and give yourself deep pressure in each of your hands. Breathe again, and keep massaging each of your hands until you regain calm. You can also squeeze your hands together tightly and hold them for seven seconds, and then repeat. Practice mindfulness, and make sure that you get yourself somewhere safe, and remember to breathe. If you need to exit from public, try to call a friend to come and assist you if you need it.

3. Implement lifestyle changes to prevent panic attacks in the long term:

Clean up your diet, eat as much unprocessed food as you can, and as many fruit and vegetables as you can reasonably manage. Reduce your caffeine intake, give away alcohol and also give away nicotine. Talk to a counsellor about your personal problems, and also do what you can to alleviate stress from your life. Try to see things in perspective, and don't sweat the small stuff. Let go of perfectionism, and set yourself realistic goals, not unachievable goals. Spend more time in nature, and quiet contemplation. Spending time in nature reinforces human's natural need for being in the outdoors (a phenomenon referred to as biophilia, or love of nature). Join a social support circle, so that you have others to rely on to help relieve some of your mental burdens. Engage in creative pursuits, and make sure that you are not always working, and ensure you get adequate rest.
Using these three simple steps, you can let go of stress, and reduce your proneness to anxiety and panic attacks, and have a life that is calm and peaceful and full of joy.

The Pleasure Of The Penis Power Through Botanical Beauties

WHEN A MAN HAS A PENIS THAT WORKS FOR HIM, HE HAS A LOT TO BE THANKFUL FOR. However, the pleasure of the penis for some doesn't come from just wishful thinking, it emanates from woeful wants. It is building the body through exercises and following the right formula including Botanical beauties such as herbs, that are grown right under our noses. We will discuss why it is very important to have a healthy penis and how we can move from the fantasy of giving pleasure to the reality of actual performance. Let's start with your current performance.

Are You Having These Sex Problems?:

Do you find yourself losing erection during sex? This can be very frustrating to any woman. Another thing that is truly annoying is to have a premature delivery before the curtains come down.
There is no trick in having a pleasurable sexual encounter nor an elusive fantasy. Enjoyment doesn't mean hours upon hours of long a painful sex as the act can actually last as little as 5 to 10 minutes. Another myth that we are accustomed to is the length of the penis. Neither the length nor the hours has anything to do with this widely-talked-about performance. Actual intercourse is pleasurable because the vagina is well lubricated for penetration.
However, without a firm and erect penis, this penetration is impossible. The entire spotlight comes from simple botanical nutrition which we will discover after ascertaining the problem below the belt.

Weak Penis

The penis is the most important part of a man's reproductive system as is the vagina to a woman. There are other areas of the body that are erogenous zones but the final show-down leads back to the faceoff between the dynamic duos.
If a man has a weak penis, he cannot perform the way he should. It doesn't matter the length of his sexual encounter as the bliss can last between 10 and 15 minutes, and that could be a very pleasurable experience compared to 1 long, boring hour of pain. But how can we know how to identify the symptoms of this "poor" condition?

Cause for Concern

If you find yourself greeting the bathroom several times during the night, your sudden burst of courtesy is a cause for concern. This could unfortunately be a problem with the prostate as it becomes inflamed and when this happens, there might be other conditions that follow.
Among these conditions are the lack of interest in sex and premature ejaculation. All these are symptoms that can lead to poor sexual performance and we will highlight the right remedy for this embarrassing situation.

Botanical Beauties

Isn't it wonderful to have a natural growing plant that could improve your performance in bed? That is the botanical beauty of the cure that nature provides.
The power of the penis could also come from increasing the size if you wish but it doesn't stop there. Regular exercise to release the stress hormone could also help you cope with the psychological problem that comes from having a weak erection. This also helps the blood to circulate through your veins and arteries.
Here are some plants that could greatly help to restore your sex life:
· Butea Superba
· Jamaican Sarsaparilla
· Panax Ginseng
The above remedies help to regulate the blood pressure, increase the production of testosterone, sustain an erection and enhance energy and power during sex.

The Power Is Yours Through Herbs

There might be other alternative but through naturally grown organic remedies, a man can restore his life and be normal again. Treating his body to natural supplements is good and when they are applied as daily supplements, coupled with regular exercise, the power is there for the taking.
Nothing is impossible when it comes to pleasing a woman because a man has the right tool for the job regardless of the size. He just needs to unleash the power behind it.

 

Online Dating Scams: How To Tell If You Are Being Baited by a Catfish

Online Dating Scams: How To Tell If You Are Being Baited by a Catfish

It’s easy for some of the smartest people to lose all sight of common sense when they're being reeled in by a catfish: an online imposter who tries to win your sympathy — and your love — by creating an elaborate scheme. Award-winning technology reporter Kurt Knutsson, known around the country as Kurt the CyberGuy, shares his top ten reality checks to see if you’re being baited by a catfish.

If you identify with at least two of the below scenarios, Knutsson says you could be falling prey to a scam artist.


1. Dumb Date Data

Physical descriptions need to be proportional. For example, someone who is 6-feet tall usually does not weigh 90 lbs. Look for any other descriptions that don’t add up to the profile photo.

Tip: Ask them to take a photo holding a unique phrase or their own name on it and send it to you. Ask to have a live video talk using Skype or Facetime. Most of today’s smartphones, tablets and laptops come equipped with a built-in camera and/or video. Someone reluctant to speak on live video, claiming shyness or that they can’t find a camera, should be a red flag.

2. Profile Picture Test

Professional photos are a red flag. Look for amateur photos — and more than one. Tip: Use a Google Goggles search on your phone to see if the photo they’ve shared with you can be spotted elsewhere online. If you see it shown with a watermark or in other settings like modeling websites, it’s likely a fake.

3. Become a Photo Detective

“This just takes it to the next level,” Knutsson says. Look for detail in photos — wedding rings, locations, activities, time of day, how they are dressed — to see if it matches. Someone claiming that a photo is from a July 4th fireworks party, who is dressed in a fur coat, in daylight, might be a dead giveaway that someone is lying.

Tip: Using a free inspection service that shows the location and time that a photo was originally taken can shed light on a photo liar.

4. Cut and Paste Profile Alert

Introductory letters on dating websites are often copied by catfish scammers. See if the same information appears in other places or has been copied from someone else by searching for it online. Out-of-country scams often slip up here, revealing inconsistent information such as landmarks and cultural events that don’t add up. For example, someone claiming to be from St. Louis who isn’t familiar with the iconic Gateway Arch when questioned is likely a liar.

5. Spelling and Grammar Fail

Hear the words when you read their writing, and check their spelling and grammar. A line that sounds like it could be from someone in a far-off country but portraying themselves to be in your same city will usually have a local dialect misfire.

Real: “I just love the Macy’s Day Parade in the city.”

Foreign Faker: “I just love the Masey’s Daytime Parades in the cities.”

6. Derailing You from the Dating Site

Red flags should be raised if, right off the bat, they want to get you to instant message or email, taking you off of the dating site where you originally met.

Tip: Always create and use y are sophisticated enough to create an online dating profile, be warned. Also look out for potential fake Facebook pages.

Signs of a fake Facebook profile can include the fact that the Facebook page was started near the same time that a dating profile elsewhere was established, if few photos are posted, or if there are no people tagged in their photos to show a connection in a relationship.

If they are on Twitter, read through historic tweets to see if the story they tell matches up to the same the person you are prospectively dating. Like Facebook, Twitter accounts created around the same time as dating profiles should be treated with caution.

Two Words That Must Be Removed From The Vocabulary Of People Who Experience Panic And Anxiety Now

Anthony Robbins put it perfectly when he said, "If you want to experience different results in your life, just start asking yourself different questions." In my experience with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and almost daily Panic Attacks, there were two words that shaped the way my day went back then.

 Those two words that made up a question I asked myself at least 100 times per day were the words 'what if.' To give you a few examples of how I used these two very powerful words that literally brought me to my knees many times, I have to go back to a few scenarios that I can remember vividly:

The Shopping Mall - What if I experience a panic attack like the way I did last time, will people think I'm crazy? Oh the humiliation, I'll never be able to go to the mall - or any crowded place for that matter - again!

A Professional Tennis Match - What if my hands start shaking uncontrollably again and I get those dizzy sensations? Will my opponent think I'm losing it mentally? Will he spread the word to the rest of the athletic community that Dennis should be locked up!

Driving - What if someone cuts me off and my anxiety levels spike up again? Will I have to pull over and call emergency again? Will I get in a crash? What if I have to pay that $300 emergency bill again in case I have a real heart attack this time!

You see how the words what if dictated everything. It was rare that when I thought the words what if, something like a panic attack or constant checking in to my bodily sensations actually did not happen. These are just three examples of when I used what if, but trust me, there were many more. The words what if forced me into a corner and kept me pinned down in my basement for 31 days.

 I would go out for the occasional short walk, but other than that I did not budge and purely existed. I was more dead then I was alive for some time. So what did I do? I started to change my what ifs to a set of words that were just as powerful, just as intense, which in time changed what I associated to what I used to fear. Just by using these three words in the comments I made to myself when a feared situation came up, I gained momentum in the right direction. The three words I started using instead of what if, were 'ride the wave.'

During my anxious times, I moved my family to Bali thinking that a change of view and attitude would help cure my problems. When I was in Bali, I would surf quite a bit and realized that when I surfed it was one of the only times I was thoughtless, nothing could bother me. I was just riding the wave without the thoughts of what if I fell of the board, what if there was a shark, and so on. I was free - I didn't add fear to the experience at all, I just kept riding the wave.

 I started applying the term ride the wave to my anxiety and panic and it worked! I started using these comments to myself rather than asking a fearful question, for example: "If I experience dizzy sensation at the shopping mall, I'll just ride the wave and not add any tension to this experience," or "I'm on this plane now and I'm feeling jittery.

What if this plane crashes? Well, I'll just ride the wave and experience this feeling, but I won't add anything to it as I cruise through these feelings." Eventually, I became disinterested in the what if's, and I didn't add to any initial fears I had. Did it take time to recondition this? Of course, doesn't anything take time when you want to create a lasting change? Turn your what if's into comments to yourself using the words ride the wave and change your entire perspective.

Don't Be Afraid to Talk About Your Mental Health

It is impossible to put definitive parameters on what constitutes a person being "mentally healthy." Societies, groups, cultures, institutions, and professions impact how a person conceptualizes mental health and sets the bar for what is 'normal.' A prominent example is someone who is diagnosed in today's society with schizophrenia, might be praised as a spiritual shaman in previous Native American cultures. The definition of mental health and the social stigmas attached to the word are constantly changing.

Let's describe mental health as a level of psychological well-being. A person who is able to enjoy and experience life without the interruption of a documented social disorder can be said to be "mentally healthy."

It is incredibly important to throw social stigma out the window when talking about mental health. Today, there are more places in the world that shy away from discussion on mental health than actively participate in it. Even societies within major countries such as The United States, The United Kingdoms, and Japan tend to view mental health disorders as too "scary" to talk about. If we want to maximize our progress in finding cures for mental disorders and help those who have them, we must be as transparent as possible.


Mental health is no different than physical health. If you have or think you have a mental disorder, it does not mean you are weak. It does not mean you are unintelligent or "broken." Would you call a cancer patient "weak?" Would you get mad at someone with AIDS for not "trying hard enough" to make the disease go away? Never. In the same vein, mental disorders are not issues which can be simply "wished away." Because of the social stigma attached to having a mental disorder, many people live with excessive anxiety, depression, fear, and other crippling disorders that impede their ability to live 'normally.'

Mental disorders, like physical disorders, do not define who you are. There is nothing "weak" about seeking medical advice or being tested for a medical disorder. If you had a back injury and couldn't move, you wouldn't just 'wait until it went away.' You'd get help.

The overall (and misinformed) consensus that it is taboo to talk about mental health is one of the reasons why so many people refuse to discuss their mental well-being. Despite the pressure and negativity associated with talking about mental health, it is imperative that people do it.

Depression and Suicide - How to Prevent Both

Contrary to popular belief medications do not work and as such we need something better. Suicide is not that easy and most who attempt continue to live but with worse stigmas so obviously we are seeking a more caring compassionate loving and enlightened approach. My approach is different and it works.

On that vein let's try this: Kick your toe off the corner of the bed and while hopping around the floor in agony ask of yourself am I hurting or do I think I am. Then as you massage life back into your wee toe think of how you can massage the niggling urge in your brain to sleep or not to sleep. You can easily identify with physical pain but identifying with mental pain is an entirely different matter altogether. Hmmm?
Actually while depressed a stubbed toe could be disastrous especially if it is a prolonged depression and the darkened cave is becoming quite claustrophobic. The fact you are walking around is a good thing so let us work with that for starters.

Prevention is always better than a cure and wearing slippers prevents stubbed toes. So what is the form that could resemble a slipper but works on the brain and emotions? Water actually!
It is scientifically proven that we are not drinking enough water and consequently our brain is under extreme pressure to thrive. Why do we do this to our most important organ? Stupidity is our greatest characteristic, for want of a better word, although irreverent would be an improvement and all because we believe the advertisements promoting unhealthy living and all through the guise of fun to boot. Oh dear it is time to wake up!
In order to wipe away our irreverent behaviours we shall pay absolute attention to our intake of water. Under no circumstances believe that liquids are all inclusive because au contraire water stands alone and is not included under the umbrella of liquids.

Can you drink too much water? Yes of course you can just like you can eat too much crap or drink too much caffeinated drinks or alcohol. Our body is made up of practically 90% water thus it needs refilling daily - with water.

Now that we know water is the first step what else are we to do to assist water and our blood cells but recognise our intake of salt too. Too much is worse than too little so moderation works and remember to apply that to everything in life.
Add four dollops of humour too as frequently as possible throughout the day, otherwise the hospital shall be welcoming you and we do not want that now do we. Do not even think about the coroner, because as much as we all like labels there is one label we can do without; the identity label on on on our big toe. Phew!

A Systematic Way Of Overcoming Your Fears And Phobias That Lead To Panic And Anxiety

During the height of my anxiety disorder I dived right into my fears and if I would have known about a step by step gradual system called systematic desensitization back then, I definitely would have taken this less frightful road.

Systematic desensitization assumes that fears and phobias are learned and they can also be unlearned through controlled exposure to the phobia, the process slowly takes away the persons sensitivity to the feared object. The process starts with clearly recognizing what your fear is and then making a ladder in the form of a hierarchy from least scary, to the ultimate goal with 10 action steps for each fear. In the case of claustrophobia and a fear of elevators your ladder might look like this:

1) Picture an elevator in your mind
2) look at a silly drawing of someone in an elevator
3) look at a real more serious drawing of someone in an elevator
4) look at a real photo of someone else in an elevator
5) find and look at a real elevator up close
6) take a step into an elevator and then step back
7) go up one floor with a friend with you in an elevator
8) go up to the top floor with a friend in the elevator with you
9) go up one floor on your own in an elevator
10) Finally, go up to the top floor by yourself in an elevator
As you can see the individual begins with the step that causes only small amounts of very manageable anxiety, and from there slowly exposes him or herself to more and more challenging scenarios. I've always been big on tattoos, and had a few from over the years.

One day, after a yoga session I had toward the end of my period of anxiety, I read a quote on the wall that said, "All power is from within and is therefore under our control." I couldn't think of a better quote that portrayed the struggles we overly fearful bunch go through every day. As a reminder I decided to get it tattooed on my forearm, but have to admit during that time I also got tattoos so I could meet a very real need all humans need these days, the need to be significant in the world. As I carry the message around daily,
Recently I started to look back on my struggles and notice that in the end all the tools to change my past nightmares was really within me the whole time. Once I tapped into that power with the momentum I gained from the tools I used in my new daily life, I was in the end completely able to let go of my panic and generalized anxiety disorder.

Of course I knew it wasn't going to be a straight road to freedom from anxiety, my mind and body put up a huge fight determined to suck me back in to the old worry and fear of bodily sensations cycle. Again, this quote that I have tattooed on my arm is another form of the strength that I pull from if my past pops up again in the future. Of course, I'm not telling you to tattoo a meaningful quote on your arm, but I am telling you to surround yourself with things that will keep you on the right track In times of need.

Are You Afraid of Bad Breath?

Halitophobia, or fear of bad breath, is a widespread but poorly understood condition. The diagnosis rests on the disconnection between the person's sense of foul mouth odor and the perceived experience by others that there is no unusual odor. Most treatment protocols advance one of two distinct approaches:

1. Behavioral modification or cognitive behavioral therapy(CBT). Each encourages thought changes to encounter the unreality of the symptom. Frequently combined with a non-therapist partner who reassuringly responds to exhaled breath by commenting on the odor.

2. Psychoanalytically oriented psychotherapy connects the current experience ( enhanced belief in the person's bad smell) with fears of rejection from the past. Through an emotionally corrective experience with the therapist, patients gain confidence that their anxiety about smelling bad can be reduced to a treatable symptom rather than a global anxiety.